How can I get treated how I feel I deserve from my husband and kids?

I pay all the bills, I still come home and cook and clean and I feel like if my husbands inconvieniencd in any way I have to deal with his attitude. He hardly ever treat me like he did when we first met, only for a day or two after i have to mention it. then right back to his neglectful self. I feel invisible in my own home with my own family. as though my voice is not heard and not important. im tired and i need a break. i love my family and only want to make it work. yet im about to have a nervous breakdown . Im a 31 year old mother that feels like I am doomed to be miserible for the rest of it.