My father is Emotionally Neglectful and an Alchoholic, what do I do?

sorry for you and your father.. I hate to say this but there is nothing you can do for your dad.... His problems are his problems.. hi is grown man and has to deal with them all by him self.. Yes it is nice to have a support system, but if you have tried to help and he refuses your help, so be it.. You have become an adult at 18, and should start thinking about the life you want to lead.. You have your Depression most likely do to the circumstances in your home with dad... Instead of trying to help him you need to start by helping your self.. How can you help others if your having emotional problems which they will not aloud to think clearly about anything...not only, are you going to make yourself more sick but you're gonna make others sick, like your fiancee.. It is a chain reaction when you have mental issues... You don't have to move out of state, but you do have to move as far as possible from your dad, to leave in peace and work on yourself and your future (your wife, a home, a nice car, perhaps children)... Your dad has leaved his life by his own ideas, or choices.. It is not like you gave him his first alcoholic drink, nor his depression... It is time to move on, perhaps this will help him understand the importance of your presence.. But do not let him run, or ruin your life... It is your life. Yes you can say thank you Father for you and Mom giving me life, but I can't let you destroy it... I know it is easier said then done, but if you stay it'll just get worst for you and your dad...GOOD LUCK!